Learning in Relationships

Message from Spirit: Relationships are one of the ways we learn the most as human beings while we are incarnate. They reflect back things we need to learn and know about ourselves. Some seem more willing than others to really give it to us and force us to learn by being mean and abusive. But some of those people are exactly what we need to set up boundaries for how we want to be treated especially when we are new to determining our self-worth. We need to be tested. We need to have our boundaries solidified and sometimes this is the only way to do this. 

Difficult relationships are here for a reason. You need to find the lesson behind the relationship. Sometimes it is to show you aspects of yourself that you need to work on. This is where judgment comes in. When you judge someone for a particular thing, be sure to look in the mirror and see if this is something you too, need to work on. It may not be exactly the same and it may look different in different situations but you may recognize the seed of it as coming from the same place. Look hard. See what you can see. Do not judge yourself. Only observe. Then try to see why the person has chosen to act this way.

See if you can see them as a child when they did not know better. Find compassion for them however you can. And when you hold that compassion close to your heart, then and only then may you approach them if you have something you want to say. They will only listen if you speak from the heart. If you are still in anger, they will not hear you and it will not be appropriate for you to have this conversation with them at this time. Wait until the anger dissipates. If the anger has not dissipated and you need to see this person, stay true to your boundaries and do what you must to protect your energy and your sense of self-worth. Let no one take this away from you.